An@l $ex is one $ex act plenty of people want – but, despite this, it is still rarely discussed or understood. 

It is highly pleasurable when done properly, a bit of backdoor action shouldn’t be overlooked as a great addition to a couple’s $ex life.

Thinking of giving it a go? Here are 11 tips that’ll ensure your an@l $ex experience is a good one.

1. Communicate

An@l $ex is an acquired taste & definitely not for everyone. So, when it comes to bum fun, a no definitely means no.

Rebecca Dawkins, $ex expert & author of 101 $ex Tips highlights ‘The most important thing about an@l $ex is that you don’t do it to please your partner, you do it because you want to explore the experience. It’s not for everyone & that’s ok’.

2. Take it easy

Regardless of how keen you are to try an@l $ex, it is something that should be taken slowly.

Being relaxed is essential in order for it to be a pleasurable experience & the back door definitely certainly is not the place to practice your ‘wham, bam, thank you ma’am’ moves.

3. Experiment first

Adult $ex educator Chris Pinto says ‘using your fingers or tongue to arouse your partner can be a highly pleasurable way to turn your partner on before the act itself’.

‘There are several other ways to prepare for an@l $ex too – sharing warm a bath together with some candles can help release the tension in the pelvic area. You can even take the chance to explore ahead of time whilst bathing, with water itself as a sort of lubricant’.

4. Toys

Alternatively, there’re a great range of toys on the market which will do the job just too &, according to Chris Pinto, can be the perfect way to start experimenting with an@l $ex.

‘Butt plugs are a great way of experimenting if you are not ready to take the plunge yet. There are some great beginner plugs to help with the ‘full’ feeling one can get when having something in the back door for the first time’.

5. Lube up

The holy grail of enjoyable an@l $ex.

And, according to Rebecca Dawkins, ‘The key thing is relaxation through lots of foreplay, lots of lube, & a sensitive lover who is going to take their time’.

Chris Pinto adds ‘The key to enjoying an@l $ex is relaxation & LOTS of lubrication. ‘Going in dry’ will be unpleasant & painful for all involved.’

6. Condoms

Despite the obvious avoidance of pregnancy, practicing safe an@l is as important as using condoms during regular $ex.

7. Get involved

Masturbating whilst your partner penetrates you is a great way of adding extra enjoyment to the an@l $ex experience, it can also help you relax, without focusing solely on the job in h&.

8. Experiment with positions

Despite people thinking of an@l $ex as a bit of a one trick ‘doggy style’ pony, there is no reason why it can’t be enjoyed in a number of different positions.

For example, lying on your front with a pillow under your hips can be more comfortable & missionary, a different sensation with more intimate eye contact.

9. Don’t withdraw too quickly

An@l entry can be uncomfortable – & withdrawal no less so. So, if you do not want to literally feel the shooting pain of what feels like half the world falling out of your bum – slow withdrawal is advised.

10. Don’t swap around

Poo is an obvious potential side effect of an@l $ex or, more specifically, poo on willies, fingers & toys – & even if it is not visible, back door germs do linger & are not something you want directly inserted into your vagin@.

11. Don’t eat a curry an hour before (or an hour after)

Let me leave you to do the math.